“Life is going to be really easy breezy in college”…..we always have this thought as soon as we step out of high school. Bollywood movies have successfully managed to fit the idea of “perfect college life” in our minds but I’m sure most of the times it’s not as perfect and smooth as we thought it’s going to be. I stepped in college as an immature girl full of enthusiasm but college life taught me few lessons which completely transformed me into a bold, strong headed personality ready to face the obstacles in the real world outside.
The following list unveils 5 most important lessons in life that I learnt the hard way!
1. Prioritising yourself.
We often try to portray the best versions of ourselves initially so that we are in good books of everyone. Just to be the “perfect one” we end up compromising on a lot of stuff for our friends especially! However, in this process we forget ourselves. Prioritising yourself can be tough, it’s not easy to say NO to your friends or closed ones, but we should learn to keep ourselves first whenever it’s needed. Never feel guilty or scared to choose what you love and stand by it…the right people will understand and those who don’t may leave..but atleast at the end of the day you’ll be happy and that’s what matter.
2. Don’t trust too much
We often believe that everyone around us is as genuine and trustworthy as we are but that might not be true everytime. Finally each and every person wants to achieve great heights in life and people might just change colours anytime, they might take advantage of you or even take you for granted. The point is, trust isn’t given,it’s earned so take time to trust people, don’t reveal too much quickly, also don’t believe in anything and everything thats been told to you. Ask questions if needed, clarify your doubts, be smart! Not everyone is your wellwisher and we should be able to identify true faces of people incase they are wearing a mask to fool us!
3. Don’t be afraid of challenges
Opportunities often knock our doors only if we are willing to grab them at the right time. Learn something new everyday. Don’t fear change. Make a bucket list. Try to get out of your comfort zone. Embrace your own pace. We don’t learn until we try so atleast give it a shot. Usually we stop ourselves from choosing the path less travelled but these choices make us stand out! People will always judge, pull you down, mock at you but it’s one life that we get and it has to be full of challenges for it to be wonderful. Don’t worry about failure, just enjoy the path and keep challenging yourself.
“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.”Benjamin Franklin
4. Stop expecting
Just trust the process and don’t expect “happy endings” everytime you do something. If you are investing your time and efforts in a particular activity or a person for that matter, do your best and forget the rest. If the outcomes are fruitful, well and good…if not, try and accept the fact that everything is not in our hands and move on. Personally, till date, I haven’t succeeded in stopping myself from expecting but I’m half way there and trust me, the day we stop expecting, we’ll be really happy.
5. Be grateful
You’ll definitely meet many people who will inspire you to be better, help you grow, teach you amazing values, be there for you during your low times. Learn to appreciate their efforts, don’t take them for granted. Give respect to those who deserve it.Your friend circle may be small, but if you manage to find true friends then don’t ever leave them. A simple smile and Thank you can go a long way!
We all will miss college someday….these experiences will only help us be better people…be mindful of your actions but also have fun…these days are never going to come back so make sure you make the best of it..keep moving on the path you chose because I know the destination will be amazing..keeping loving….keep smiling!!!❤️